Post by lori on May 18, 2016 22:22:25 GMT 10
The Art of Forgiveness
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First lets clarify what forgiveness is, or is not. It is not condoning the action or actions of another that led to pain or trauma. It is an act of re-claiming your power. Allowing yourself the freedom to no longer be bound or controlled by the painful emotions of fear and unworthiness, that in turn create "auto pilot" reactions in our lives. Thus paving the way for the self-fullfilling prophecy of further victimization, Trauma or pain. It is an act of saying that these emotions of pain, fear no longer control who you are today, they no longer define you. In my experience I have found that we all hold guilt or a sense of responsibility for our part in being a victim, as in " I should have screamed louder, fought harder, known better" ect. Thus forgiveness is a two part exercise, one forgiving them for causing the pain, and secondly ourselves for being a part of the exchange of energy that took place.
The following Meditation is an exercise in forgiveness. I recommend when you do this allow yourself plenty of time, do no more than three people in one session, and do not be surprised if the same people return again and again.
Imagine yourself in a Forest, the trees are very tall, full and old. The grass is rich and lush. You can hear birds singing in the tree tops, and the air is clean and crisp. see flowers, butterflies, and a blue sky. Feel the air around you, the warmth and safety. Smell the fresh scent of wild flowers. as you look upward you see that the sun is filtering thru the trees and creating a halo effect of light. Stand in this light and let it bathe you in warmth, love and healing. Now look to your left, you notice a person from your past that caused you pain. Invite them into your light, if you can take their hands in yours, look deeply into their eyes and repeat "I forgive you, I forgive me, I take my power back now and set us both free" imagine this person being encircled with a bubble of light and floating off. bask in your light for a moment. feel yourself become lighter. now repeat up to three people. More if you like.
You may do this as often as you like, the people coming in can be family, friends, or someone you dont even recognize,or just a mirror image of yourself, it is okay, go with whatever comes up. Feel Your Power! Feel your Light! You are a unique, perfect experssion of the divine in physical body!
Inner Child Healing
First lets examine what the inner child is. This is a term for a fracture in the emotional body, by a "life defining moment" It can be a minor moment such as a 5 year old refusing to have a picture taken and making her mom cry and her dad angry, or it can be a major moment as in abuse or molestation. You may have many inner children, or only one or two. They can be represented as boys or girls, infants, all the way up to your age now. These children represent your experience of situations, people and emotions. Therefore they are you, and there is no wrong or right.
The Meditation:
Imagine yourself in a meadow and it is warm and sunny, you are surrounded by children of all ages, some may be jumping rope, playing in the creek, reading, some may be laughing while others are crying. find a child that draws you..sit next to them, ask them whats wrong. Are they feeling sad, lonely, scared, angry? talk with them a while. Tell them how grateful you are for them being there, and you appreciate all they have done and sacrificed for you. Tell them you love them. Now if it is possible invite this child into your arms and give them a hug, just as you would your son or daughter. Tell this child you are ready to carry their load, they have done enough and are free to play now..feel this child merge with your heart.
Do as many as you are comfortable doing. Some may take several visits before they completely trust you and merge. Remember you are being the parent to the younger you..the parent you wished you'd had.
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First lets clarify what forgiveness is, or is not. It is not condoning the action or actions of another that led to pain or trauma. It is an act of re-claiming your power. Allowing yourself the freedom to no longer be bound or controlled by the painful emotions of fear and unworthiness, that in turn create "auto pilot" reactions in our lives. Thus paving the way for the self-fullfilling prophecy of further victimization, Trauma or pain. It is an act of saying that these emotions of pain, fear no longer control who you are today, they no longer define you. In my experience I have found that we all hold guilt or a sense of responsibility for our part in being a victim, as in " I should have screamed louder, fought harder, known better" ect. Thus forgiveness is a two part exercise, one forgiving them for causing the pain, and secondly ourselves for being a part of the exchange of energy that took place.
The following Meditation is an exercise in forgiveness. I recommend when you do this allow yourself plenty of time, do no more than three people in one session, and do not be surprised if the same people return again and again.
Imagine yourself in a Forest, the trees are very tall, full and old. The grass is rich and lush. You can hear birds singing in the tree tops, and the air is clean and crisp. see flowers, butterflies, and a blue sky. Feel the air around you, the warmth and safety. Smell the fresh scent of wild flowers. as you look upward you see that the sun is filtering thru the trees and creating a halo effect of light. Stand in this light and let it bathe you in warmth, love and healing. Now look to your left, you notice a person from your past that caused you pain. Invite them into your light, if you can take their hands in yours, look deeply into their eyes and repeat "I forgive you, I forgive me, I take my power back now and set us both free" imagine this person being encircled with a bubble of light and floating off. bask in your light for a moment. feel yourself become lighter. now repeat up to three people. More if you like.
You may do this as often as you like, the people coming in can be family, friends, or someone you dont even recognize,or just a mirror image of yourself, it is okay, go with whatever comes up. Feel Your Power! Feel your Light! You are a unique, perfect experssion of the divine in physical body!
Inner Child Healing
First lets examine what the inner child is. This is a term for a fracture in the emotional body, by a "life defining moment" It can be a minor moment such as a 5 year old refusing to have a picture taken and making her mom cry and her dad angry, or it can be a major moment as in abuse or molestation. You may have many inner children, or only one or two. They can be represented as boys or girls, infants, all the way up to your age now. These children represent your experience of situations, people and emotions. Therefore they are you, and there is no wrong or right.
The Meditation:
Imagine yourself in a meadow and it is warm and sunny, you are surrounded by children of all ages, some may be jumping rope, playing in the creek, reading, some may be laughing while others are crying. find a child that draws you..sit next to them, ask them whats wrong. Are they feeling sad, lonely, scared, angry? talk with them a while. Tell them how grateful you are for them being there, and you appreciate all they have done and sacrificed for you. Tell them you love them. Now if it is possible invite this child into your arms and give them a hug, just as you would your son or daughter. Tell this child you are ready to carry their load, they have done enough and are free to play now..feel this child merge with your heart.
Do as many as you are comfortable doing. Some may take several visits before they completely trust you and merge. Remember you are being the parent to the younger you..the parent you wished you'd had.